If We can Go Back Few Years............

We are living in a modernized and an advanced world. Specially mobiles & internet already became a part of our day today life. Most of the things are done in a call and also has online facilities for most of the things. if we need food by a call can get door step delivery. For most of the things no need to to go get it done. Via online can get it done. 

But if we have a look few years back everything totally different. Our parents/Grand parents did not have those facilities as we are. if want to contact a person hardly had telephone facilities as well. Snail mail played a huge role. Specially with a people who are far away or out of the country. Nowadays social networks & messengers helps for a smooth interconnection. Through that we do not feel the distance. 

Fro the basic needs to self actualization all have been eased. I am sure if we go 100 years back to live, it will be very hard for us. Because we used to this easy life. it will be very difficult to adopt to that life style. But mean time the people who lived hundreds of years back comes to live in this modernized world how they will adopt this culture and globalization... I am sure they do not like it. They used to hard work. Of course they do not like this easy & rush life. 

Every individual used to a particular life style. Mostly we would like to stick for it unless some people who are very flexible with all the changes. This is will be same in moving forward as well. If we look forward few era's the world we be more developed. So many things will be changed from now. I doubt whether we will like it. 

We get use to the life style which is in existence at the time of our live. It will be hard to adopt easily to a different life style thought it is good and advance!

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Infertility & Divorce

I thought to write about this after hearing an incident from a friend of mine. Generally when we talk to friends so many things will be shared. Likewise recently when i was talking to a friend of mine she was telling me about her sister & the problem what she facing currently. 

She has already told me that her sister & brother in law had the affair for 8 years before marriage. They have married about 3 years back & have no kids yet though they have tried so many medicines. Because of that they have both have problems always nowadays & it moved up to divorce.

When she told that, what i thought was what happened to the love what they built from so many years? What happened to the understanding & the bond? I agree that if get married all will like to have kid/kids. But unfortunately some cannot have that. Of course any one will feel sad. But cannot have a child is a reason for divorce? None of them can be blame for it. Its none of their fault. Also i do not think the only purpose of marriage is to have a kid. The success in marriage is understanding the spouse & being together in all the happiness & sadness. 

If you do not have a kid & if really want a one you can adopt a child. To whoever born all are kids. No need to differentiate them. We can treat an adopted child as our own. But all does not like that. Nowadays there are so many ways & medicines to cure infertility. Still if all unsuccessful i do not think divorcing the partner is correct. At a time like that all will blame especially the lady. But that is one of the time the spouse can show the real love & caring. Without ignoring if he/she can treat her husband/wife in the same way that is greater than having a child.

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Its not hard sacrifice something for someone or wait for someone. But its hard to find that someone who deserves it!!!

 "It is not hard to sacrifice something for someone or wait for someone. But its hard to find that someone who deserves it". This is my today's face book status. It is not my own. While i was reading something i got it sometimes back. It may be just a quote. But it is very realistic. Consist lot of meaning. 

In life all of us do some kind of sacrifices on behalf of others. If you do a sacrifice on behalf of someone whom you like, then you feel happy. It is not painful or hard. But most of the time the people whom we sacrifice does not worthy enough for it at all. We may think about them & do so many things. But we cannot get any value from them. 

Parents, Spouse, siblings, friends or whoever we cannot understand about a person fully.. 100%.There are times we cannot understand our self fully.Then how can we understand about another person fully? But  we can understand the movements of our very close people in most of the cases. Can identify even a small change. Same time there are people who never understand others feelings. It does not matter how they attached to. Whatever the reaction it is very hard for them to understand others. It is very painful when whom we sacrifice something, whom we love, whom we expect something, whom we trust does not understand us. 

As i said its not hard to sacrifice something on behalf of others. Because in life any way we have to make sacrifices. But no use in doing sacrifices on behalf of all. No use on making sacrifices on some one to whom you means nothing. It is hard to identify who deserves it.

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Popularity

Popularity is some of the peoples major dream. There are people who expect popularity in every thing what they do. I am not telling any bad to popularity or popular people or who seeks popularity. It is a wish of few. But just sharing some of my own thoughts. 

Personally i do not like popularity. There are people especially girls who are crazy about some celebrities and going after them. When ever i see such people i used to think why do they wanna go after them or so much crazy about them. There also just normal people due to some talent they are popular among the people. 

Not only celebrities. In our day today life we can meet so many people who are so keen to popularize in some matter. Then always needs others attraction. As i said before i am not telling any wrong in that. But i always have a question why we need to get popular? why people so much willing to get popular? 

There are people who wants to get popular and do so many things to achieve that. But with their personal life they might have lot of loopholes. If you cannot treat your family well, if you do not have time to spend with your own family.. loved once.. then whats the use in being popular? Popularization is not stable.It may diminish at any time. But among us there are so many people who sacrifice lot of relationships, lot of stable things on behalf of the popularization. 

If you get popular so many people will get to know about you. Many people will love you. But if you do not have time to spend with you long lasting relationships, if you cannot treat then well whats the use in life. Than all a person who can make their family happy, who can keep with a smile always will be the greatest person!!!

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Some of The Great Values to Admire.

Honest

In other words can say speaking truth or sincere. As humans non of us are perfect. There are times all of us lie. If we call a person as honest it does not mean he/she has never lied. Most of the time being truthful especially with there loved once. There are few friends(guys) of mine who love their mother a lot. Most of the time they listen whatever their mother tells & have told me several times mom is my life.But they smoke without the knowledge of their mother. I always had a question with them if you love a person that much how can you tell such a lie. There are few who does the same with their girl friend/wife as well.(This applicable to trust as well.)

Trust.

you can never take & get the trust. Its fully based on the actions. Trust should come to a person based on our actions. Its is not easy to build the trust. But a small scratch to that trust can destroy the whole thing.Trust, honest & love closely interconnected to each other. If we love a person we trust them. Love also  occurs based on some trust. If so we expect them to be honest. Personally i value & admire the trust(honesty) more than anything. A person can show love. But hardly a person can be truthful & be honest. As i said earlier as human non of us are perfect. But it is very important to be loyal to our loved once. Because they trust us. We can be wrong. we would have done a big mistake. But always it is better to tell the truth. If a person who really loves us will understand & forgive our mistakes. Any way it is better to be hatred for what you are than showing a false picture & being loved. The same example which i said for honest goes with here as well. They may love their mom, fiancee or wife. But inside they are breaking the trust. If they get to know that this person smoking without their knowledge what will happen to the trust which they had on them? How it might hurt them. If we break the trust once i do not think the same person will trust us anymore on the same way. Always there will be question mark. Even if it is a big mistake if you tell the trust then  can be happy by thinking "at least this person has told the trust without hiding".

Love

Love closely interconnected with the two which i stated above. Love comes with expectations. If we love a person then we will expect something from them. Mainly the trust/honest. If it is not happening then there will be problems. Also love needs a good understanding & some sort of sacrifice. Love should be shown by actions more than words. Only the expressions does not make a perfect love. What we express should be felt by other person with our actions. We cannot define a way this is how love should be shown. There are some minor things which makes a person happy and indicates the love.This vary person to person. Love & caring does not have a time to show. It should indicate that "i always have time to love & care about you". It is not possible to be with the loved one always. Same time it does not mean that you need not think or care about them when you are busy or when you are with others. A simple word/actions can make a big difference.

Patience

Patience is a good strength and very important in life. Patience can solve many problems smoothly than being hot tempered. Also it is unpleasant to see when a person shouting. But it gives a pleasant personality to a person who has patience & handles all smoothly with a smile. 

Communication

In any kind of a relationship communication is very important. It can be personal or work related. Every individual needs to be a good listener always. If there is a proper communication there will not be any problems. Proper communication can solve any problems. Always the communication should be done by the people who have problems or who need it. But there are people who do not talk with the relevant person and they will tell their problem to all the third parties & get their opinion. I do not see it as a good way. It can increase the problem most of the time. Any problem can be solved if there is a proper communication. For this we needs to be a good listener as well.

Be who you are

There are people who change their self according to circumstances. (I am not talking about the flexibility here). It is very important to be our self always. We do not need to get an attention by being fake. There is a good saying "It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for wt you are not".

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What is Psychological pricing & how it affect the buying power...

Psychological pricing is a marketing/business concept which is used to influence the consumer buying power. Customers respond better to certain type of prices & they are more likely to buy with certain price levels. Psychological prices more often ends with the 9 digit. For example, 99.99, 9999.99, 99,999.99, etc.These kind of prices of course does not have any effect on the monkey what we are going to pay. Even if it is 999.99 we are going to pay 1000.00 & even if it is 1000.00 we are going to pay the same. 

But this of prices can psychologically hit the consumer buying power. It gives a different mind set to the buyer at the first sight. when we see a price at 10,000 it seems like big. Same time though there is only one penny difference if we see the price as 9999.99 we feel as less. That one penny difference hit the consumer mind in a large scale. 

At textiles, groceries, electrical item shops... where ever we go we can see this psychological pricing. Most of the people would not have thought about this pricing though they purchase at those pricing levels.

There are some consumers who measure the quality by the price. If the price is high they feel the product is high quality vice versa. This type of consumers always focus on the price. They do not accept the same product with same quality if there is a price variation. 

But these Kind of consumers are rare. Most of us go for low pricing. Psychological pricing can influence the consumers who go for the lowest price in a large scale. 

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Movie Review - "Oye"

"Oye" is a Telungu movie. Though i am wring the review now it is not a new movie. It released almost 2 years back with the acting of "Siddarth" & "Shamili". It is a very good movie to watch who ever like love stories.

Shamili is an ideal Indian girl who thoroughly believes in numerology, sentiments, long life & all the regular simplistic life. Siddarth is a contradictory character to her. He is a rich person who believes in the short & sweet of life. He fall in love with that opposing character at the first sight.

From the start of the movie itself he falls in love with her. Whole movie is about how he tries to win her heart & the sacrifices he make of behalf of her & her happiness. Also this movie consist a bit different ending than the typical Indian movies.

Expressing the love on the birthday is a very cute & touching scene. This film emphasize the importance in the happiness of our day today life, how we enjoy our life, the importance in expressing the love to our beloved etc..

In most of the movies the girls character only will make cry, But here it is opposite. The ending really makes sad. Its a nice movie to watch!!!

From the below link can watch the whole movie with the english subtitles.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ezMQyf5-xAY&feature=related

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One God Forever

Does God Exist? Some people have this question on their mind. Whatever the question only two answers related to it. Either God exist or he is not. Whether you are an atheist or a theist all people live with some hope, some faith. 

With my experience & faith i strictly believe in god. God exist in the world. We have many religions in this world. All the religion see & worship the god in different ways. For example Islamic people they do believe in Allah. As a christian i do believe & worship Jesus. 

If some one ask how the god will be i do not have a clear answer for that. I do not know how god is and whether physically he is alive. But than all the things there is some power. I do believe where ever the true love, or kindness exist there will be god. God is love. Love is god. God is a forgiver.  

Any one can ask if god is love then why we are going to church or temple to worship the god. Those are the places which is specifically dedicated to represent the existence of god. It does not mean god will only be there. We go there just to listen the word of god. Most of us feel a peace, relax and a special mind satisfaction when you go to such religious places. Through preaching we can get to know many things. There are many people who changed their life in a good manner by listing to the preaches. Also many can pray as one family. 

As i stated i strictly believe in god. But i have a very big doubt on the existence of many gods as the way we practice. For example as per Christians god is Jesus, as per Islamic god is Allah. What i think is there is only one god. That's is why i stated above i do not have an idea in which way god exist. As per my knowledge and believes people only differentiated the religions & god in many ways. We all follow what some people differentiated long ago. But our mind do not accept it easily. Because from small age we used to see the god in a particular way. Though i say there is only one god i also do believe in Jesus. If some one asked to change the religion i will never do it. That is our mind set. We do not want to give up our faith. 

What ever the religion we follow, whoever we worship.. the summary of all the religion is "Do good. not wrong".  None of the religious promote the bad. All the religions are a way/practice to direct the people in a good manner. All promote the love, kindness, helping others, etc. That why we say the people who practice & follow the religion will not go in a wrong way. If i say in another word the person who follow & practice the religion properly & truly will make less mistakes. 

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One of the Biggest Cheater

If i put a open question "Who is the biggest cheater?" every one will come up with different answers.It can be vary person to person. But every one has a biggest cheater inside us. 

I would say the biggest cheater is our mind. While being with us it cheats several times. If we really need something or like something then our mind start to react in that way. it will give favorable options as our wish. Though something is good and if we don't like it then our mind will give hundreds of fake reasons not to go for it.

Most of the times our mind knows whats correct what is wrong. Same time it knows our likes and dislikes. In that cases in react as per our likes and dislikes. It ignores what is correct. Our mind will tend to make the correct as wrong & wrong as right. 

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Observation

This is about something which i noticed today while i was travelling from Kandy to Colombo. When i was waiting for the bus at the Kandy bus halt two guys were standing in front of me. From that one guy dressed up in official & other one was wearing a casual shirt.

One bus conductor was also wearing the same casual shirt which that guy was wearing. After noticing that that guy was telling to the other guy "Look this bus conductor also wearing the same shirt which i am wearing. I feel like removing it now. I am not going to wear this any more"

Some people have a thought that they should wear something uncommon. I am also included in that. But i do not see a wrong in that.But from his statement which come to my attention was the word he used "This conductor also wearing the same shirt & i feel like removing it now"

Conductor also a human as all of us. Why do we need to differentiate people by profession, religion, cast, rich, poor, etc.. I have no idea what both of that guys doing. Bus Conductor also a job. There are lot of culprits in the politics, police, etc. But there is a good image for them in the society. Like conductor who is just doing a simple job getting treated like this.

I am sure if the same shirt was worn by a celebrity or a reputed professional, that kind of people will be proud that they also wearing the same. Since this is a conductor  he felt in such way.

World is globalized & well developed. But when this kind of differentiation's will  be leaving? When people will start to look the other person only as a Human without considering anything???

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A getting to know questionnaire - 2

Sometimes back i have added a getting to know questionnaire.
http://niroshii.blogspot.com/2011/06/getting-to-know-you-questionnaire.html.
This is another part of it.

1- What's worse - Physical or Mental cheating?
Both. But a person who don’t cheat mentally do not tend to cheat physically as well.

2- Is it easier to forgive or forget?
To forgive.

3- Can men and women be “Just Friends?"
Yes.

4- Do you think is it possible to understand a person fully?

Nope. Sometimes we cannot understand our own self. Then how can understand another person fully…

5- Do you have any confusion currently?

Mmm yes.

6- Dating co-workers?
It is a nonsence.

7- The water park..
Yaa Nice.

8- When you are "In Love" do you notice other people?
Just Look J

9- Is flirting cheating?
Cannot call cheating. But it is a cheap behavior.

10- If someone called you a bitch would you be offended?
No. Let anyone to tell whatever they want.

11- Are you ok with your significant other being friends with an ex?
If ex then no jealous.

12- Would you live with someone without marrying them?
No.

13- Favorite sport?
Cricket (Only to watch)

14- Do you squeeze toothpaste from the middle or end of the tube?
The End.

15- Friends with benefits?
Cannot call then as friends.

16- Do you believe in angels?
I don’t know… Can or cannot be. But like to see an angel if there is.

17- Would you rather take pictures or be in pictures?
Be in pictures. Specially these days J

18- Have you ever flirted with someone you had no interest in?
Never.

19 - Ever kissed a random person and then walked away?
Nope.

20- What color looks best on you?
I do not know what looks best on me. But I like Black & white.

21- If you could play any sport professionally what would it be?
None.

22- Ever break up with someone and regret it?
Not Yet.

23- Are you a jealous person?
Comparatively No. But as humans every individual might have kind of jealousy.

24- Would you ever have plastic surgery?
Nope.

25- When do you want to get married?
If age wise means 26/27.

26- Next concert you're attending?
No such plans.

27- Favorite song?
There is lot. Mostly Tamil.

28- Favorite movie?
Latest VTV.

29- What's your sign?
I don’t know. I do not believe those.

30- Are you a beach, country or city person?
Beach

31- Have you ever had a "secret affair?"
No yet J

32- If you could own a non-traditional pet which would it be?
Monkey

33- Favorite show as a child?
Spellbinder.

34- Favorite summer drink?
Avocado.

35- Can you change a car tire?
No.

36- Favorite concert attended?
Nothing like that.

37- What you like to wear on your wedding day?
A Wedding dress with veil.

38- Have you ever sat and hoped for a phone call?
Yes.

39- Ever skip school and spend the day at the beach?
Nope.

40-What do you think about gay marriage?
No Objections if they are okay.

41- Have you been kissed?

Yes.

42- Do you disturb others?

Ya. At times. But serious times no.

43- When do you feel bad?

When I get hurt.

44- Do get annoyed when your beloved start to share all the unwanted matters with you?

Not at all.  I think it is a matter to be happy.

45- Are you good at cooking/swimming/etc?

Nope.

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An interesting Animal

If i ask what is the interesting animal everyone will come up with different answers. Most of the people used to like Dog. Dog is the favorite pet for many.

If some one ask me what is my favorite animal or which is the most interesting animal my answer is Monkey. If i say that lot of people used to laugh at me.

Comparatively monkey is one of the animal most of the people do not like & used to insult about. But from small age i used to like monkeys and always used to admire their activities. Especially the medium size brown monkeys. And also i used to collect variety of pictures of monkeys. When ever i see a monkey i go & watch them.

Comparing with other animals monkey has some unique features. I do not know whether there were any relationships between monkeys or not. But really they have some features of Human.Whenever you see them can see something new always. Rarely can see a monkey with a dull mood. It will be active & happy always.

Some of the activities which i used to admire on them,

• The way they carry the small monkey, how they feed, hug & make love.
• Take Lice on another monkey & put it to their mouth.
• They way they look, make funny faces & sounds.
• When we not aware take the stuffs & going like a culprit.
• Put their face on a small gap & the way they look.
• When a monkey dressed up.

Those are just few. I would just say in one sentence that i used to admire all of their activities such as from the way they look  to sleep. Even if i am in a dull mood i feel happy when i see their funny & active way. I like to keep a monkey as my pet. But without caging want to keep inside the house as a family member.

Some of the interesting monkey captures which i got it from internet.

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A Small Story With a Big Message

This is a small story which i read. But carries lot of feelings.

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
'Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river.'
The little girl said, 'No, Dad. You hold my hand.'
'What's the difference?' Asked the puzzled father.
'There's a big difference,' replied the little girl.

'If I hold your hand and something happens to me,
chances are that I may let your hand go.
But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens,
you will never let my hand go.'

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.

So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours...

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Do Age Attain ceremony Necessary for a girl??

Age attending is a natural thing which happens in a particular time of age. I have no idea how all the communities & cultures deal with it. But in Asian countries they celebrate this as a function. Especially in Tamil culture with the name of “Sadangu”. I would call this as a single marriage. Only a groom will be missing in that ceremony.

The girl will be dressed up like a bride & the parents will invite all the relatives & known people. That is why I said it is almost like a single marriage. For a wedding you are taking a function is reasonable & acceptable. Because from that day two people going to have their own family life & going to become one. But for an age attending, do this kind of a ceremony needful? I see this as a crazy thing. I cannot imagine what is there in to publish and to celebrate. Why they want to show to the world a natural thing which happens in the body. If honestly telling this is like publishing to the whole world from that day the girl is going to have monthly circulation. After that it will make some special attention towards that girl specially among guys.

Within some communities this function has become a must. Even if they don’t have money to spend for such a thing there are people who lend money & take the ceremony.

From the day the girl become age attained, the girl will be restricted seeing males for few days. I have no idea why only for those days cannot see guys. These things have been derived from a tradition & still people practicing it. And also until some auspicious time they do not take the ceremony. Sometimes this can be after a month from the day the girl become age attained. There is a believe if auspicious time has not be seen & these traditions has not been practiced that is not good for the girl. This is funny & crazy.

Some people take this for prestige. Since the next door person taking or some other relatives taking they also start to celebrate. They think if they do not take it is not good for their image.

Any way these things cannot be changed. In this world always there will be some people who blindly believe all the traditions & practicing it.

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Never can satisfy woman (???)

This is a topic which came across in the office transport two days back. While going to office in the evening guys started this topic. I cannot remember the reason why they started this. But as per them woman cannot be satisfied. 

Cannot totally agree with that statement. But even i think girls expect more than guys. But it does not mean woman can never be satisfied. Mostly girls do sacrifices on behalf of their family than the guys. They do sacrifice their wills on behalf of their loved once. There are guys who does so many sacrifices. I never say no. But comparatively i believe girls does more than guys. 

Generally guys express what they need. Mostly girls does not tell every thing what they wanted. They expect their loved once should understand and fulfill their desires. I do not know whether it is correct way or not. Because other person cannot read our minds. But a person who is loving us should have a good understanding about us. If so up to some extent they should know our desires. Than asking & getting something we feel happy when our loved once understand our feelings, desires & fulfill it. 

I have heard lot of married guys telling can never satisfy the female party. There are guys who easily tell so. But they do not make attempt to understand their wife or her like & dislike. Some say Love does not expect anything. But i do not agree with that. What i believe is love comes with expectation. We expect less from the people who is not close. But we start to expect more from the once whom we love most.  

As i said earlier i think girls expect more than guys. A guy & girl both expect love. But i think a girl expect the love in variety of ways. Love, trust & expectations.. all three are closely interconnected to each other. Love comes with trust & expectations. There can be trust without love. But if there is no trust then no point in that love. Trust plays a major role in love or any kind of relationships. Even a tiny scratch to the trust can reduce the stability of the relationship. It can be wrong. But that is what i personally think. Love & Trust together start to expect. When the time these expectations are not are getting fulfilled only conflicts arising. 

For everything it is better to have a good communication & always share the likes, dislikes. It will help to reduce many problems. And also at times it is better to expect less from any one :)

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Saree Vs Jeans/Pants

Saree is one of the oldest dress which is wearing by asian ladies. Specially it is a cultural dress among Tamil community. Nowadays females have variety of clothes such as shalwar, frock, jeans, etc.. etc..

Among all, Jeans/Pants is one of the most popular dress by woman nowadays. From small to elder most of the people wear it. Still there are people who do not like woman wearing jeans. they think it is an indecent dress. specially in Tamil & Muslims communities. The people who say so accept saree as a decent dress & they categorize jeans with t-shirt or top as indecent. Indeed i cannot understand the logic in between that. 

Saree gives a complete & a special attractive look to woman. But if compare saree with jeans i would say jeans is more decent. saree is more sexy than jeans. If you wear saree can see the body parts comparing with jeans (Some people do wear jeans or whatever the dresses in an inappropriate way. i am not talking about those kind of way of dressing here). 

Always have a doubt in the above stated logic.

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Stubbornness

Stubborn/Adamant  some of the common words we can here in our day today life. Some of the attitudes or feeling derive to a person at a particular time of the age. But stubborn come from the small age. A child who cannot speak also stubborn at times. Until they need something which they wanted they will cry. Likewise From small to elder all the people are stubborn in some way.

Generally all say stubborn is a bad habit & a person should not be stubborn. Yes can agree with that. some people are stubborn even for a small matter. They always stick to their words even it is wrong. They don't think about others feelings. What ever they need they wanted & also whatever they express is the correct thing. Though they know they are wrong they do not wanna accept the truth or do not want to be second.

But at time i think we all should have stubbornness. There are people who live with the ideas of others. whatever others tell, they will also start to think in that way or just blindly follow them. A person should always strong enough with their decision. Should have their own policies. It does not mean should be selfish or do not think about others. Specially when the times of team work or family life or when being with friends, etc there are many occasions we needs to listen to the rest. Also there are times we need to give up some of the things on behalf of making others happy (here what i mean by others is some special people / our loved once) or to come to a settlement. 

As human we should have discipline than anything. Nowadays most of the people go after money, beauty, social status, popularity, etc. But what i think is than all a person should have a good personality, should have good humanity. To maintain those good behaviors a person should have some sort of stubbornness. 

I would like to mention few examples here. since a person does not drink or does not smoke we cannot call as a gentle men. Because that person may be controlled by others not to do so or did not get a chance to do those. But a person who can stand in between hundreds of boozers and while they force if he/she can reject it without telling "i really did not had an idea of drinking. but since they forced i had to" you can call that person as a gentlemen. Also since a person is quiet or seems to be innocent we cannot tell that person is good or innocent. As i say always silent killers are more dangerous. some people they do bad stuffs always. But there are people who wait for the time. When they get an opportunity they will try to take the maximum advantage of it. There are guys and girls who do not go behind others. But if some once come across their way they will not leave them. Than calling a guy gentlemen who did not had any chances to associate with girls, can tell as real gentlemen who had  hundreds of chances to flirt or do whatever they want and still who maintain their values. same with girls as well. 

Like wise there are instances a person should stand with their own policies & decisions & also there are instances we should be flexible enough.

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Do people need others only for their needs?

When someone put a open question from all of us "Do you need others only for your needs" mostly all of us response will be "No". But most of the times it is the opposite way. At time all of us are bit selfish. No one can reject it. But the reality is the people whom we associate thinking good in our day to day life are also same most of the cases. 

When they need something or at happy times all will be there. When we are in a need no one will be there.  The way of behaving of a person when others are happy not always same when they are on a need. At that time they may try to leave. people used to take advantage from others. 

So always than blaming others it is better not to expect anything much from anyone. 

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