If We can Go Back Few Years............

We are living in a modernized and an advanced world. Specially mobiles & internet already became a part of our day today life. Most of the things are done in a call and also has online facilities for most of the things. if we need food by a call can get door step delivery. For most of the things no need to to go get it done. Via online can get it done. 

But if we have a look few years back everything totally different. Our parents/Grand parents did not have those facilities as we are. if want to contact a person hardly had telephone facilities as well. Snail mail played a huge role. Specially with a people who are far away or out of the country. Nowadays social networks & messengers helps for a smooth interconnection. Through that we do not feel the distance. 

Fro the basic needs to self actualization all have been eased. I am sure if we go 100 years back to live, it will be very hard for us. Because we used to this easy life. it will be very difficult to adopt to that life style. But mean time the people who lived hundreds of years back comes to live in this modernized world how they will adopt this culture and globalization... I am sure they do not like it. They used to hard work. Of course they do not like this easy & rush life. 

Every individual used to a particular life style. Mostly we would like to stick for it unless some people who are very flexible with all the changes. This is will be same in moving forward as well. If we look forward few era's the world we be more developed. So many things will be changed from now. I doubt whether we will like it. 

We get use to the life style which is in existence at the time of our live. It will be hard to adopt easily to a different life style thought it is good and advance!

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Infertility & Divorce

I thought to write about this after hearing an incident from a friend of mine. Generally when we talk to friends so many things will be shared. Likewise recently when i was talking to a friend of mine she was telling me about her sister & the problem what she facing currently. 

She has already told me that her sister & brother in law had the affair for 8 years before marriage. They have married about 3 years back & have no kids yet though they have tried so many medicines. Because of that they have both have problems always nowadays & it moved up to divorce.

When she told that, what i thought was what happened to the love what they built from so many years? What happened to the understanding & the bond? I agree that if get married all will like to have kid/kids. But unfortunately some cannot have that. Of course any one will feel sad. But cannot have a child is a reason for divorce? None of them can be blame for it. Its none of their fault. Also i do not think the only purpose of marriage is to have a kid. The success in marriage is understanding the spouse & being together in all the happiness & sadness. 

If you do not have a kid & if really want a one you can adopt a child. To whoever born all are kids. No need to differentiate them. We can treat an adopted child as our own. But all does not like that. Nowadays there are so many ways & medicines to cure infertility. Still if all unsuccessful i do not think divorcing the partner is correct. At a time like that all will blame especially the lady. But that is one of the time the spouse can show the real love & caring. Without ignoring if he/she can treat her husband/wife in the same way that is greater than having a child.

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Its not hard sacrifice something for someone or wait for someone. But its hard to find that someone who deserves it!!!

 "It is not hard to sacrifice something for someone or wait for someone. But its hard to find that someone who deserves it". This is my today's face book status. It is not my own. While i was reading something i got it sometimes back. It may be just a quote. But it is very realistic. Consist lot of meaning. 

In life all of us do some kind of sacrifices on behalf of others. If you do a sacrifice on behalf of someone whom you like, then you feel happy. It is not painful or hard. But most of the time the people whom we sacrifice does not worthy enough for it at all. We may think about them & do so many things. But we cannot get any value from them. 

Parents, Spouse, siblings, friends or whoever we cannot understand about a person fully.. 100%.There are times we cannot understand our self fully.Then how can we understand about another person fully? But  we can understand the movements of our very close people in most of the cases. Can identify even a small change. Same time there are people who never understand others feelings. It does not matter how they attached to. Whatever the reaction it is very hard for them to understand others. It is very painful when whom we sacrifice something, whom we love, whom we expect something, whom we trust does not understand us. 

As i said its not hard to sacrifice something on behalf of others. Because in life any way we have to make sacrifices. But no use in doing sacrifices on behalf of all. No use on making sacrifices on some one to whom you means nothing. It is hard to identify who deserves it.

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Popularity

Popularity is some of the peoples major dream. There are people who expect popularity in every thing what they do. I am not telling any bad to popularity or popular people or who seeks popularity. It is a wish of few. But just sharing some of my own thoughts. 

Personally i do not like popularity. There are people especially girls who are crazy about some celebrities and going after them. When ever i see such people i used to think why do they wanna go after them or so much crazy about them. There also just normal people due to some talent they are popular among the people. 

Not only celebrities. In our day today life we can meet so many people who are so keen to popularize in some matter. Then always needs others attraction. As i said before i am not telling any wrong in that. But i always have a question why we need to get popular? why people so much willing to get popular? 

There are people who wants to get popular and do so many things to achieve that. But with their personal life they might have lot of loopholes. If you cannot treat your family well, if you do not have time to spend with your own family.. loved once.. then whats the use in being popular? Popularization is not stable.It may diminish at any time. But among us there are so many people who sacrifice lot of relationships, lot of stable things on behalf of the popularization. 

If you get popular so many people will get to know about you. Many people will love you. But if you do not have time to spend with you long lasting relationships, if you cannot treat then well whats the use in life. Than all a person who can make their family happy, who can keep with a smile always will be the greatest person!!!

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Some of The Great Values to Admire.

Honest

In other words can say speaking truth or sincere. As humans non of us are perfect. There are times all of us lie. If we call a person as honest it does not mean he/she has never lied. Most of the time being truthful especially with there loved once. There are few friends(guys) of mine who love their mother a lot. Most of the time they listen whatever their mother tells & have told me several times mom is my life.But they smoke without the knowledge of their mother. I always had a question with them if you love a person that much how can you tell such a lie. There are few who does the same with their girl friend/wife as well.(This applicable to trust as well.)

Trust.

you can never take & get the trust. Its fully based on the actions. Trust should come to a person based on our actions. Its is not easy to build the trust. But a small scratch to that trust can destroy the whole thing.Trust, honest & love closely interconnected to each other. If we love a person we trust them. Love also  occurs based on some trust. If so we expect them to be honest. Personally i value & admire the trust(honesty) more than anything. A person can show love. But hardly a person can be truthful & be honest. As i said earlier as human non of us are perfect. But it is very important to be loyal to our loved once. Because they trust us. We can be wrong. we would have done a big mistake. But always it is better to tell the truth. If a person who really loves us will understand & forgive our mistakes. Any way it is better to be hatred for what you are than showing a false picture & being loved. The same example which i said for honest goes with here as well. They may love their mom, fiancee or wife. But inside they are breaking the trust. If they get to know that this person smoking without their knowledge what will happen to the trust which they had on them? How it might hurt them. If we break the trust once i do not think the same person will trust us anymore on the same way. Always there will be question mark. Even if it is a big mistake if you tell the trust then  can be happy by thinking "at least this person has told the trust without hiding".

Love

Love closely interconnected with the two which i stated above. Love comes with expectations. If we love a person then we will expect something from them. Mainly the trust/honest. If it is not happening then there will be problems. Also love needs a good understanding & some sort of sacrifice. Love should be shown by actions more than words. Only the expressions does not make a perfect love. What we express should be felt by other person with our actions. We cannot define a way this is how love should be shown. There are some minor things which makes a person happy and indicates the love.This vary person to person. Love & caring does not have a time to show. It should indicate that "i always have time to love & care about you". It is not possible to be with the loved one always. Same time it does not mean that you need not think or care about them when you are busy or when you are with others. A simple word/actions can make a big difference.

Patience

Patience is a good strength and very important in life. Patience can solve many problems smoothly than being hot tempered. Also it is unpleasant to see when a person shouting. But it gives a pleasant personality to a person who has patience & handles all smoothly with a smile. 

Communication

In any kind of a relationship communication is very important. It can be personal or work related. Every individual needs to be a good listener always. If there is a proper communication there will not be any problems. Proper communication can solve any problems. Always the communication should be done by the people who have problems or who need it. But there are people who do not talk with the relevant person and they will tell their problem to all the third parties & get their opinion. I do not see it as a good way. It can increase the problem most of the time. Any problem can be solved if there is a proper communication. For this we needs to be a good listener as well.

Be who you are

There are people who change their self according to circumstances. (I am not talking about the flexibility here). It is very important to be our self always. We do not need to get an attention by being fake. There is a good saying "It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for wt you are not".

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